Opening to Grief

August 17, 2020
Clinical social worker Willis and documentarian Samuelson (coauthors of Lasting Words) provide a succinct, comforting reference for those dealing with the loss of a loved one. The authors weave clinical observations, consolations, and practices (such as blessings to repeat and guided journaling prompts) into short chapters that explain the process of “opening to grief,” which happens through embracing kindness and gratefulness, finding joy in nature, and using “writing as a refuge.” The authors acknowledge the influence of Elisabeth Kubler-Ross’s work and stress that periods of grief can provide opportunities for growth and change, and also allow one to “become more authentic with yourself and with other people.” Meditation is recommended, and each chapter offers a guided practice; in a particularly helpful section, the authors unpack the meditation process (which “can open a doorway into compassionate awareness and understanding”) and relate it to the uncomfortable emotions of grief: “When we bring an attitude of mindfulness to grief and suffering, we try to look clearly at, and experience directly, everything that has happened, just as it is.” This accessible guide will be most useful for those who consider themselves spiritual but not religious. Anyone suffering loss will find wisdom and helpful practices here.

September 1, 2020

This concise, approachable guide offers those experiencing grief ways to understand and process their feelings using mindfulness as a foundation. Social worker and Buddhist chaplain Willis (Lasting Words) draws on years of experience leading bereavement groups, in collaboration with writer and photographer Samuelson. Willis sees grief as an opportunity to grow and rebuild one's life, and she offers gentle guidance on how to experience that transformation. The first part of the book offers various practices and exercises that one might use to understand and accept the varied emotions of grief, including meditating, connecting with others, spending time in nature, and making art. The second part addresses common questions and misconceptions about grief, in which Willis affirms that there are no correct ways to feel or express grief. A more thorough explanation of meditation follows along with an extensive resource list. While the death of a loved one is most commonly addressed, Willis acknowledges many types of grief, including the losses felt as a result of life-changing events. VERDICT While drawing on Buddhist influences, this excellent complement to collections for the bereaved will be a comfort to those of many faiths experiencing grief.--Anitra Gates, Erie Cty. P.L., PA

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